good wife wednesday

a christmas wish list for every marriage

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Ah, Christmas. The season of tapping your toes to “Jingle Bell Rock” and wishing your spouse would finally figure you out. I know it sounds harsh, but it’s too often true. As a woman who loves gifts, both giving and receiving, I have walked this road many times. I’ve made lists and crossed my fingers that he will use them. I’ve bought him the “perfect” thing and then found out he’d rather shop himself. I’ve…

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a real God, a real marriage, and a real love

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“For he chose us in him before the creation of the world to be holy and blameless in his sight. In love he predestined us for adoption to sonship through Jesus Christ, in accordance with his pleasure and will— to the praise of his glorious grace, which he has freely given us in the One he loves.”  -Ephesians 1:4-6 I used to think love makes life richer and more beautiful. But I was wrong. Life,…

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the eyes of love

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The other night I looked at Mr.Fantastic and said, “This love we have, the love in our family, it makes it all worthwhile. There is nothing better than to love and be loved in return.” Sometimes your own experience places an exclamation point on God’s greatest commandment, and it all just makes perfect sense. Mr. Fantastic and I were friends for six years before we found that love- for true, for real, beautiful love- was…

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a letter to the husbands of the world

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Dear Amazing Husbands of the World, After countless conversations with women at many stages of life, I feel I need to place before you some of our thoughts. I hope you find my letter helpful. I will begin by admitting that it can be hard to be a woman in this modern world of ours. I know we women are often complicated for you to understand. Hormones, emotional responses, our non-compartmentalized hearts,  and all of…

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love: imagined

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In order to be a good wife I have found one must possess a good imagination. Mr. Fantastic and I met when we were eighteen. I was just a girl back then, and he was a boy-turning-man. We were friends, and only friends for a long, long time. I was a bit broken inside, in need of love, and no person alive could have given me the kind of love that I needed. Providence would…

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Proverbs 31: making space for a man

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After spending any short amount of time around Christian culture you will eventually hear about the Proverbs 31 woman. Personally, I groan a little inside when this is the main text at a women’s ministry meeting. I ache when I hear a single guy say they want to be a “P31” wife. And I may even get a little nauseous when someone tries to compare a real person’s daily life to the woman in that…

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love tweets

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Mr. Fantastic flew away for a night and I spent the evening painting, eating chocolate, and scanning the internet.Isn’t Twitter fantastic?All the wisdom of the ages is at our fingertips every time we scan those tweets. Philosophers, theologians, great thinkers, philanthropists, presidents, authors; quotes of all kinds scroll through the feed all day and all night.Last night I stared at a tweet and my heart swelled when I read this: “It is not your love…

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the post your husband wants you to read

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As pastors, we do a good deal of marriage counseling. There are some general themes that tend to come up in most of our meetings. In general, the problem of selfishness weaves its way through most conflicts. I only know one cure for selfishness: choosing to put the other person’s needs above your own. The promise to do this is one of those golden, lovely, warm-the-heart vows we all take in our weddings. When life…

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