how we can know we are beautiful

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Morgan and I planned a last minute date night on Monday. All day, while I painted my parents’ house, I dreamed of the short ribs at North. At 5pm, I asked if we could eat there, and he smiled because he had already made a reservation for 7:15. Sixteen years of marriage and twenty-three years of friendship have their perks. He knows me well. So we sat on the lovely restaurant patio, eating creamy polenta…

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on finding our purpose in a broken world

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“When you do something for someone else, don’t call attention to yourself. You’ve seen them in action, I’m sure—‘playactors’ I call them—treating prayer meeting and street corner alike as a stage, acting compassionate as long as someone is watching, playing to the crowds. They get applause, true, but that’s all they get. When you help someone out, don’t think about how it looks. Just do it—quietly and unobtrusively. That is the way your God, who…

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the soul of your marriage

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“Of all the knowledge that we can ever obtain, the knowledge of God, and the knowledge of ourselves, are the most important.” – Jonathan Edwards Morgan and I sat in the low light of a lovely restaurant, with quiet words passing between us. A jazz band played somewhere around the corner, and at the other tables sat beautiful people, smiling, feasting, and celebrating who-knows-what.The conversation turned from the the events of the day to the…

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how to be a super awesome wife mom minister woman

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These are the kinds of conversations happening in my home these days: Conversation #1:Me: Why are you wearing your brother’s underwear?Boy: There’s no clean underwear. I’ve been wearing these for three days.Me: You’ve been wearing dirty underwear that doesn’t fit you for THREE DAYS?Boy: Yep. Conversation #2:Morgan: What’s for dinner?Me: I don’t know. I have no plan. Too many baseball, ballet, gymnastics, and church meetings. We are practically nomads who rely on the kindness of…

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why we wait for love

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And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love. -1 Corinthians 13:13 I’m feeling nostalgic about my husband. It’s the result of several things happening at once in my life. First, Morgan and I are speaking at a marriage retreat this weekend, so of course, I’m dwelling on all the reasons our love is bringing life to our souls. Then yesterday I had a few extra minutes before a meeting, so I went…

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let’s be adventurous

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Yesterday we packed up some snacks and drove to the Museum of the Pacific War in Fredericksburg, Texas. We’ve been studying WW2, and wanted to put some skin on the stories. The museum didn’t disappoint. As we entered, a grey-haired man in a museum vest looked my kids and said, “I’m so glad you came today. This place is here for you.” Then he looked at me and Morgan and thanked us for bringing them…

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a christmas wish list for every marriage

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Ah, Christmas. The season of tapping your toes to “Jingle Bell Rock” and wishing your spouse would finally figure you out. I know it sounds harsh, but it’s too often true. As a woman who loves gifts, both giving and receiving, I have walked this road many times. I’ve made lists and crossed my fingers that he will use them. I’ve bought him the “perfect” thing and then found out he’d rather shop himself. I’ve…

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a real God, a real marriage, and a real love

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“For he chose us in him before the creation of the world to be holy and blameless in his sight. In love he predestined us for adoption to sonship through Jesus Christ, in accordance with his pleasure and will— to the praise of his glorious grace, which he has freely given us in the One he loves.”  -Ephesians 1:4-6 I used to think love makes life richer and more beautiful. But I was wrong. Life,…

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midlife marriage: an ode to love

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He and I, we know we are among the lucky ones. Every time one of our single friends laments the lack of good options out there, we feel the breeze made by the bullet we dodged just by falling in love with each other. Swoosh. There it goes again. One swoosh leads to another and we find we are suddenly in the middle years of life. The last four decades are garlands of grace some…

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a safe and biblical marriage

By | a year on the front row, article, love, marriage | 4 Comments

We are back from vacation, feeling rested, feeling loved, and sort of ready for the hectic days ahead in August. My mind is stuck on the memory of one day last week, when Mr. Fantastic and I got caught in a thunderstorm in the middle of vast park. We were taking a break from real life, having a day for just the two of us: no kids, no phones, no email. We had walked and…

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